What to Look For in a Friend
I’m honestly just writing this blog post to show off these cute photos haha
But seriously, I am really grateful to have Agnes & Vanessa in my life. Agnes & I decided to start a “wedding design” business late 2017. We decided to team up with Vanessa in March 2018 because we were running similar businesses and did not want to compete. The three of us have been inseparable ever since.
Here are some things to look for in a friend:
You can be yourself with them. I feel like I’m myself around everyone, and that’s why people either really love me or can’t stand me. There is no medium haha. Sorry! But it is important for me to be 100% genuine 100% of the time because I don’t have time to be fake.
They won’t judge you for being a twerk-aholic. This isn’t something I’m ashamed of. I twerk. ALL. THE. TIME. If you haven’t seen me twerk, then we ain’t close like that. HAHA! It’s not something I publicize, but I have no qualms with doing it in private. And these girls don’t judge me for it. They’ll either join in, or shake their heads at my craziness.
Conversation flows. Vanessa & I have found ourselves at Agnes’ apartment talking until one of us notices the time and realizes it’s time to leave. Find you some friends that you get lost with. Conversation should not be one-sided. Everyone should be enjoying the tea.
You can be honest with them. I have always been quite judgmental. I toned it down a couple years ago, but I’m still judgmental when I need to be. All my friends know they can come to me if they want an unbiased, brutal opinion. My friends should understand that I’m not trying to hurt them; I’m just being honest.
They are goal-driven. I don’t want lazy friends. I work too hard to have friends who are just lazing around, doing nothing with their lives. We’re too old for that! Lazy people cannot help me get where I need to be in life. I need to run ideas by my friends so I can get honest opinions, and I want to be able to help them develop their ideas as well.
You can invite them to church. My faith in God is the most important thing to me in my life. If I can’t share that with my friends, then I’m not sure we can be friends friends. You know what I mean? That obviously isn’t the case for everyone, but it is definitely the case for me.
They don’t stress you out. We’re all in a group chat, and each of us responds at our convenience. All of us work, two of us are mothers, one of us is getting married in a few months… The only drama we have is when we’re talking business and are trying to crunch numbers and make our clients happy. Dasset.
They don’t want your man. Need I explain?
Military Ball is what brought the three of us together one year ago, and I was so thrilled that we were able to work together on the 2019 event. The kids did their thing on the dance floor, and we were just being our normal, ridiculous selves. There was one point where Vanessa was dancing in the middle and Agnes & I were literally dancing circles around her.
I won’t even tell you about the shoulder twerking we were doing…
Anyway, thank you, ladies, for being my friend. Love you!